Many of our respondents told us that their first marriages in the 1950s and 60s had been repressed, and if they are dating again today that they are keen to experiment and enjoy a much more empowered, adventurous relationship. For some women, it has only been in later years that they achieved orgasm for the first time. '” Having had conventional relationships in the past, lots of people we spoke to are choosing to have relationships on different terms today. They see each other most days, but Carole says: “It’s more exciting seeing each other when you don’t see each other all the time.” David was keen to avoid the compromising involved by sharing each other’s space. “You don’t want to be in a close, tight relationship again with all that involves, with all the sort of mundane things.” Throughout our research we have repeatedly heard how this second chance at love and sex was entirely unexpected. Margaret, 67 from Oxfordshire told us: “We still feel as though we have a right to be a sexual being as well as everything else. ” “Younger people nowadays must think: ‘Oh God, that’s gross, you know, granny’s at it,'” Myra, 67, in Essex, told us.But at it they are, and a third of those who are single told us they too would like to meet someone new.
“Also, given the importance we place on attractiveness, resources and intelligence, it would be worthwhile to explore how individuals ‘trade off’ altruism against other desirable qualities,” Arnocky said.Her granddaughter Nicola is acting as both facilitator and gatekeeper and sifting those she thinks are suitable.As Nicola sends a smiley to a man called John who’s caught her grandma’s eye, Connie tells us that Nicola need not worry about her.In fact, STIs have doubled in 50-90-year-olds in the past 10 years.Justin Gaffney is a sexual health nurse consultant and told us: “There is a degree of naivety in the older population in that they just don’t see that they are at risk of sexual infections.” In fact, older people become more anatomically susceptible to STIs as they age, and yet 64 per cent of our respondents who are either in new relationships or are dating, hadn’t sought sexual health advice.